When things go wrong outside, go inside. Don’t fight the outside, don’t flee the outside, don’t freeze. Go inside.
At U-center we had a group of angry clients, blaming U-center. We used Tara Brach’s dharma-talk on anger to work with them. U-turning from blaming you to caring for self. Anger is the body’s intelligence. But when we are hijacked by our limbic system, that is not very helpful. We have to look at our vulnerable emotions underneath: is it shame?, is it hurt?, is it fear? What is it that your wounded self needs? What does your wounded self care about? Then we can turn anger into action. The action to care for our selves, while building a more just and love-based society.
When fears visits us, it is a part of ourselves that says: you are about to grow! Without a crisis, there can be no change. What is needed of in a crisis is the courage to step into the unknown, instead of regressing to the old. Stop being a manager of the universe.
Working with emotions, I notice the lack of presence of the feminine. There are a lot of negative cognitions about what the feminine is. But the feminine has her own wisdom, and when the masculine and the feminine are not balanced both suffer.
Nothing we do is without personal gain. The suppression of the feminine goes way back, and lead to a mind-dominant world. The absence of balance is omnipresent. Politics, media are about polarities. Instead of a dialogue, people more firmly defend their point of view. How wrong both polarities are for thinking they are right. The religion of the new world will be open-mindedness. Where are the connectors, the ones who listen, the ones who agree with all truths, the ones who can connect the polarities? Will you be a connector? Deep listening requires emptying the self so that all can be heard the way that it is shared. Deep listening requires us to actively move towards where the other is. Deep listening requires that not only we keep our mind open, but also our, wounded, heart open, when it feels safe to cover it up. It is not facts that unify. And all conflict is energy lost, when we need unity in diversity.